The Most Important Thing In A Relationship

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If you ask an average person what's most important in a relationship, they will say it is love. Over the years we were taught to believe this. Question is, if love is the most important, how can love can sustain a relationship? I have seen two people who are still in love hurting each other badly, getting separated or divorced.


I have seen a man who loves his wife dearly cheat on her. I have seen a lot of error and many evil happening in Relationships that both parties are still very much in love. People are quick to announce that they got married for love. If you dare say you didn't marry for love, people would be wondering why the heck you when bordered getting married.

Love is not the most important thing in a relationship and love can not truly hold a relationship together. And before you think it is Money, No, it isn't money.

The most important thing in a relationship is RESPECT. A partner who respects his or her partner would not hurt him or her. He would not cheat, he or she would not cross the line that will cause problems. Respect protects boundaries in relationships. I have seen people who are loved but not respected. I have seen men beat up the women they truly loved.

A man that has respect for his woman will defend and protect her. Never will he slap or beat up his woman. Respect is key in a relationship. The sanity of every relationship depends on the level of respect invest in that relationship.

These days alot of people say they are looking for love because they think that love is the greatest ingredient for a beautiful and successful relationship. Instead of love, seek respect. It is better to be respected than to be loved, but truth is if you are respected, you are deeply loved but if you are just loved, no guarantee that you are respected. If you earn his or her respect, You are deeply loved.

Notice I didn't say if you demand for respect, I said if you EARN his or her respect. This is very important to understand. Respect is earned not demanded. It is not automatic either. You don't just get it simply because you are in a relationship. Just like trust, respect is EARNED.

Unfortunately, some of you are not worthy of respect. There's nothing respectful about you. Some people don't even respect themselves, so how do you expect others to respect you?

To earn respect, first respect yourself, be disciplined and offer undeniable value. If your relationship is built on mutual respect for each other, love will be a by-product of the Relationship and every other thing else will fall in place making yours a beautiful Relationship.

Amachree Ikijana Alex.

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